Last year I wrote a long Haggadah full of quotes and readings that I found thought-provoking and meaningful: some analytical, some mystical, some poetic. My brother edited it down to a very efficient 12 pages (in large type for easy reading aloud) that's more suited to our mixed multitude, and to our practice of celebrating Passover at a restaurant and squeezing the service in between placing our orders and food arriving at the table. I retaliated coped balanced it by moving the readings into an appendix. They remain the best part of the Haggadah for me, and I thought I'd put them here in case they enrich anyone else's Passover. L'shalom!

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([personal profile] rosefox Apr. 18th, 2019 10:26 pm)
Today I got blood drawn to verify my immunity to measles, mumps, and rubella.

If you're in or near an area with an active measles outbreak, or if you happen to be seeing your doctor for some other reason, I encourage you to get your immunity checked, especially if you're too young to have had measles and too old to have gotten a second dose of the vaccine when that recommendation was added in 1989. For all the talk of unvaccinated kids, it's non-immune adults who can do the most harm, because they're the most mobile. The guy who started the Michigan outbreak assumed he was immune, and thought he had bronchitis; then he infected 40 people. So please get checked out, and get your MMR if you need it, and do your part for herd immunity to counteract those who won't or can't.

My pediatrician was on the ball and I got an MMR in 1991. I'm almost certainly immune. But we live on the edge of one of the neighborhoods that's had reported cases*, and we frequently shop in that neighborhood, and Kit plays on the local playground with kids from that neighborhood... so we're all getting blood tests just in case.

* I've been thinking about how easy it is for this to turn into "I don't want my child to play with those dirty children from that segregated community" and the like. I have been reading some Orthodox Jewish news sites—all of which are pro-vax, bless them—and one published an op-ed that bluntly said, "Letting your kids get measles instead of getting them vaccinated plays right into 'dirty Jew' stereotypes and harms the whole community." So I am being conscious with my wording, and glad that that discussion is happening within Orthodox communities, and keeping my very non-Orthodox self the hell out of it.

Kit's pediatrician says the dose Kit got at 12 months will protect them until they turn four and get the second dose, and there's no need to give it early (which he does do for children traveling to epidemic areas). But he's keeping an eye out for reports of measles on our end of the neighborhood, and giving babies their first doses as early as it's safe to do.

I hate this. I hate every part of this. I hate how easily anti-vaxers prey on vulnerable people. I hate that this is still, still, based on fear of autism (and don't get me started on autism and Jewishness, because whoo boy there's a lot to talk about there). I just want everyone to be safe and healthy, especially the little babies who get no say in any of this.
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([personal profile] rosefox Apr. 17th, 2019 11:32 pm)
Sunday of our trip was just as delicious as Friday and Saturday.

So delicious! )

Kit was asleep when we got in, and X was glad to see us but also wiped out from a tiring weekend of solo parenting. We scavenged food and went off to our separate rooms, deeply contented from an excellent vacation.

Coda 1: I did indeed try using the shoe boxes for a bit of shelf organization. I think I prefer cloth drawers, though. Marie Kondo can get her kicks from efficiently using whatever she has handy. I get mine from everything having a unified look.

Coda 2: On Monday, I picked Kit up from school (they were SO HAPPY to see me). When we got home, they didn't want to go inside, so we hung out on our front patio for a bit. While watching them run around, I stuck my hand in my coat pocket and found the half-empty pack of almonds. Kit demanded a tithe, so I gave them a few and ate the rest. I loved having that little vestige of vacation still with me as the daily routine resumed.
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([personal profile] rosefox Apr. 13th, 2019 07:07 pm)
J and I are having the BEST TIME in Old Town Alexandria. Just the best. We did the bare minimum of planning for this trip—all we reserved in advance were train, hotel, and Friday dinner, plus we spent maybe half an hour poking around Google Maps and pinning things that looked interesting—and it's working out perfectly.

We're delighting in being a middle-aged tourist couple, to the point of parody: for the trip down, he wore a windbreaker, I wore a cardigan, and we took turns wheeling our new 360-degree spinner suitcase. Then we spent the train ride reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. We find ourselves very entertaining.

Friday )

Saturday )

Tomorrow we plan to get up and out well before the noon checkout time, leave our bags with the hotel clerk, and go back to the waterfront so J can go shoe shopping. "I haven't bought anything for me," he pointed out. If I can get souvenir earrings**, he can get souvenir shoes.

** Or, as X would say, souvenirrings.

I can't believe this is our first just-us touristy trip since we went to London and Paris in 2012. What a busy seven years it's been! It's wonderful to be getting back in the habit of anniversary travel. We are so good together and patient with each other's foibles and extremely compatible in our choices of where to go and what to do and how to balance planning and spontaneity. And when I sit in a somewhat ludicrous restaurant and smile pleasantly and say "Well, the placemats are lovely", J knows just how loudly to giggle.

Together 17 years, married 13 years, and I still get bluebirds tweeting around my head when I look at him. I am very lucky and have made some very good choices.


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